Our middle guy turned four today.Happy Fourth Birthday CC.
We always give our boys a choice of cake that they would like us to make. This year it was all about trucks, oh and candy too!
Thanks for always making us smile CC.
Boys, come sit down on our virtual couch tonight, we need to have a heart-to-heart chat. I am going to tell you something very serious, very heartfelt and very important.
(BUT first, a cute photo of one of Nana and Papa’s many costumes.)
Alcoholism is in our family, our blood and it is something you need to be aware of. No, don’t be afraid of it, just be aware.
Alcohol, like any addiction, will steal your days away, create a barrier between you and your loved ones and will make you do things you never thought you would do.
We have a loved one that “relapsed” the last few days. They went on a drunken binge. They hit their head, which caused a gash that will probably need stitches or glue. We know that they feel shame, guilt, sadness and all the hopelessness in their world.
Unfortunately boys, there is nothing we can do. They need God’s help.
Addictions are powerful. I know because I battle my daily addictions to certain foods, reality TV, Facebook and I am sure a myriad of other small things I rely on for comfort when my emotional storm comes. Every day I need to be open to relying on God and those He has placed around me.
I feel strongly that anything that harms your close, authentic relationships may be an addiction. Are you playing too many video games instead of talking to your friends? Do you think about playing video games all the time? Or how about when you start drinking alcohol, you drink too much too often? Do you hide your drinking? Do you think about when you can get your next drink? Has anyone close to you mentioned that you may be drinking too much?
Boys, please know that you are not alone, if you do end up struggling with alcohol. Yes, alcoholism is in our family. BUT, it can be overcome, just ask your Great Grandfather who has been sober for over thirty years.
May God grant you the serenity to accept the things you cannot change, the courage to change the things you can and the wisdom to know the difference. (From the Serenity Prayer that hangs on our bedroom wall)
Boys, I pray this day and many more days, that you will never know the sadness of alcoholism like we know, that you will never know the worry about what will happen next to your loved one with alcoholism and that you will never know the deep sorrow of coming out of a drunken binge.
We are in the final days of “living” in the town where all three of my boys were born. I have been very intentional visiting with certain people and going to special places.
On Sunday, we went for a hike on the acreage behind the first house we lived in. We went with an old neighbour and her son. This is the home where JC was born beside the dishwasher. Here’s the story.
JC insisted on taking his backpack with a snack and a few other things in it. Does this ever happen to you with your own children? I said yes and boy did we get a surprise.
We had hiked up to the top of the hill overlooking the lake. The boys were sitting and chatting when suddenly out popped “Dukey”, JC’s teddy bear. We don’t let our teddy bears go travelling with us, but I sure smiled when I saw Dukey.
My mom had given us Dukey when were six months pregnant with JC. She gave it to us in the house at the bottom of this hill the Christmas before JC was born.
When Dukey popped out of the backpack it was a very special moment thinking about all that has happened in the last seven years since our boys (and Dukey) came into our lives.
Thanks JC for being in tune with other people and God’s Spirit inside of you. You are one of the most thoughtful and caring people that I know. You made us all smile today.
We went to the hardware store to look at toilets and we ended up with a great activity for the boys.
They got to participate in a FREE kids program constructing a car. Not only did they get to hammer away, they got a free Home Depot apron, hard hat, ruler, pencil and a car that they had put together themselves.
Here are my proud boys.
Afterwards, my oldest even showed the youngest how to put together his car. Mommy couldn’t manage all three boys with hammers, so the two big boys made their cars while baby OC got lost in the ride’m lawn mower cage. Yes, I did have my first screaming mommy with a lost child moment.
Learning in action! Hammer, hammer, hammer.
I just had to share this one… I saw it yesterday through Life and Photos by Andy’s blog.
Sexy Neck and I watched it this morning and we both had tears in our eyes.
It reiterated our thoughts on having three children, our love of homebirthing (we had two of our boys at home) as well as what bedtime looks and sounds like in our house.
May this little ditty inspire, encourage and make you laugh til you cry.
Today is the last day of Kindergarten for our first born. What a year it has been!
Negotiating the great educational experiment of full-day every day Kindergarten. (We did half days til Christmas). Getting to know the school culture as a parent, not just as a teacher. Plus, having the younger brothers without their eldest brother five days per week. Whew!
From the very first day of school, we have been very intentional about the importance of JC saying goodbye to his younger brothers with a hug and a kiss. I believe it helps everyone’s transition into the day. Plus who doesn’t want to start their day off with a hug and a kiss?
Here is our last day of Kindergarten:
HUG and a….
Now off to line-up for school.
Today I will leave you with one more photo: the two big boys after they went to watch their best friends’ ballet performances. We stopped for a break to look at one of the most beautiful lakes in North America.