This post has been percolating in my mind for many months. Stewing, forming, mashing all up together in my head and within the deepest part of my heart.
How could I best pour out my words for another beautiful, vibrant, gardening Nana?
Tonight, I just decided to sit down and write.
Tonight, I am celebrating another Nana.
I remember one day after dropping JC off at school in Vtown, a very good friend of mine K walked up to me in the parking lot. I am not sure where the little boys were, but K and I ended up standing in the parking lot and she shared her news.
Her beautiful mom, Wendy, was diagnosed with cancer and they didn’t think it could be cured.
If you know my friend K, you know both her mom and her dad. Like my parents used to be, their lives were woven throughout the fabric of their grandchildren and children’s lives. Nana Wendy was a Super Nana, just like my mom.
I didn’t know at the time, but K and I would walk similar journeys as grieving daughters and mom’s of young children as we watched our Super Nana’s and mom’s live and die with cancer. My mom wouldn’t be diagnosed until many months later and would pass away two years before Nana Wendy.
On December, 29th, 2015, just two short months ago, I was able to be present and sit as K and her family celebrated Wendy’s life. Ironically, it was two years to the day that we had celebrated my mom’s own life.
Wendy’s celebration of life was truly remarkable and not something that I soon will forget. Candles were lit. K read a beautiful poem. Her brother shared his mom’s life story and some humour to go along with it. K’s daughter shared her heart. Family and friends shared stories. It was the most lighthearted, beautiful, inspiring, celebration of life I had seen. I felt like I had the opportunity to sit with Wendy, getting to know her more through her family, while in her garden.
This moment reminded me about the depth of character, which we all have, that allows us to grieve deeply, yet celebrate a life. This same depth allows us to smile at little children and be grateful for an unborn baby that K’s brother’s family was expecting, while feeling sadness about the loss.
Life is created in these beautiful seeming “opposing” moments, created by amazing families, like K’s!
It is about embracing all of lifes beauty at all times.
I am extremely humbled to call K my friend and to have journeyed this passage of time with her through cancer treatments, hospital stays, time in hospice and celebrating our moms lives and deaths.
With gratitude, I pour out these words.
With humbleness of heart for being able to watch this journey unfold.
With a great lump in my throat for the loss we both endure.
With sadness for our children that have lost their Super Nanas.
With love pouring out because of how our mom’s lived their lives.
To the max!
With a good book at their side.
A beautiful garden to tend to.
And a family that deeply misses their presence.
Hugs to our Nanas in heaven.