Be fighting for life then death

Dearest family, friends and blog followers,

I don’t say this lightly nor without the awareness that the words I write can bring emotions, triggers and thoughts.

Yesterday, the surgeon informed as that the surgery was a success but that the cancer had spread throughout mom’s abdomen. It was a mess in there.

Yesterday, we moved from fighting for mom’s life to fighting for mom’s death. Mom does not want to die in the hospital. We do not want her to die in the hospital.

Yesterday, dad and Sexy Neck took a tour of Hospice House. They were overwhelmed with the love, support and homey feeling. They both emphatically expressed that this was the place for mom. They even have a playroom.

Yesterday, we met with the Palliative Care Coordinator we got connected with in the summer through my sister’s diligent connection making.

Here is MM explaining things to mom:

20131219-003839.jpgWhat a lovely, hardworking, caring and strong human being in a nurse uniform. (Reminds us of our midwife!)

Today, we move mom to Hospice House.

Today, we celebrate mom leaving the hospital forever.

Today, we shift our fight for life to relaxing and enjoying time with mom.

12 thoughts on “Be fighting for life then death”

  1. Oh, sweetie… 😦
    I just want you to know that I have been reading your updates. I don’t always have much to say but I have been following and really rooting for you and your mom.

    There is a story about the Lubavitcher Rebbe, someone came to him and said that the doctors had found cancer. So the Rebbe answered, “So they will lose it!” The man said, “Huh?” “You told me what they found, so what they found they will lose.” And yeah, it disappeared.

    I hope by some miracle the doctors are wrong . . .
    And if they aren’t, we are all here with you. You are so strong. And so is your mom.


    1. My dear friend across the seas. Your words have encouraged me am since I started this blogging process.

      I am praying for this miracle for the cancer to leave and relishing the miracles that are already occurring each moment. Mom drinking, pain free, talking. Beautiful miracles.

      Hugs to you and your boys.

      1. I have no idea how I inspire anyone. Seriously.
        But you – you are always so strong. Your posts are always so full of faith.
        You will get through this. I know you will.
        I wish you could’ve had a miracle.

  2. All my love… I am honored to bless your family with stitches of blessing. All day each day, each hat I sew will be thinking and praying for you by name… two other women also carry the burden of prayer along with me in praying for each of you!!!

  3. Oh Joanna. We are so sorry to hear about your Mom. Please give her a hug with love from us. And your Dad as well. Wish there was more we could do. Still praying and sending white light. Love to all. Jan and Don

    1. Jan and Don, thank you for your consistent and kind support during all of this. You two are amazing. Love the Clark Crescent gang! Love you! Hugs from mom and dad too.

  4. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your Mom, & your family right now, Jo. I cannot imagine what you are experiencing, but I do admire the strength you, your Mom, and family have. Thank you for the updates on your blog. I know I haven’t seen you or your Mom in many years, but I am glad to have these amazing words from you. I am happy you can focus on spending more quality time with your Mom & your family, especially around the holidays. Hospices and the people working in them are a true blessing. Love to you & your Mom, Karla.

    1. Friends forever. I know our paths will cross again. You are so sweet to write and think if us. We always have a bed/pool to swim in for you and your fam. Hug.

  5. Joanna our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family through this difficult time. We spent a lot of time with your Mom and Dad through the good old ringette days. They are great people as you already know. Give them both a hug for us. We are praying for a miracle for Your Mom. Love Larry and Heather Thomas

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