To Reject: (OUCH)
2. to refuse to hear, receive, or admit
Ok boys, here is some motherly advice. I know in the 21st Century we have all sorts of quick and easy ways to communicate. Awesome!
But if you are going to reject someone make an effort to do it the old fashioned way:
- Write a letter and deliver it by hand. Then run away really fast! (I know my shy guy could even attempt this one.)
- Pick up the phone and talk to the person, no leaving a message sorry.
- Better yet, pick up the phone and arrange to meet the person face-to-face.
Never send an email to reject someone, as you will see emails/text/twitter is always read with a more negative slant. This mode of communication will harm relationships, especially those emails that are “reply all” rejection emails. OUCH!
How you handle rejection and how you reject others (yes, it is okay to say no) will tell you alot about who you are and who other people are in your life.
Let me sit you down here in our virtual living room boys and tell you a little story.:
I dated a guy in high school. (Yes, I know shocking! ) We dated and broke up. (Yup, he isn’t your father.) Nine years later… yup almost a decade. I was teaching in a school in the boonies one hour from any type of major town. I met a woman that was this guy in high school’s aunt. (Yup, the world in small!) We had broken up by communicating and we both handled the “rejection” well. Thus, nine years later this guy’s aunt says: “I hear you are the sweetest girl!” Yes, rejection hurts, but it is really how you handle it that counts.
Reject away with love, kindness and clear communication.